This week we learned about family stressors. Family stressors are important to understand because they happen to everyone and they happen for any period of time. They are inevitable but some are good and some are bad. Now some of you are going, "What? Stress is good?" In a way, some situations that might provide stress are good-- such as a planned marriage or a planned baby. Stressors that are bad are what we normally associate with stress, such as emotion problems, death, or addictions. These are hard things to come about but everyone deals with them differently. Coping is the definition of dealing with something, but not necessarily overcoming it. We relate coping to a "coping saw". Coping saws are used with thin blades to make precise details and fit a piece of something (such as wood) exactly into whatever it needs to be fit in. That is what we do when we emotionally cope, is we rearrange our circumstances, feelings, and states of mind to best fit into whatever is providing a stressor on the family.
My opinion: I love having the gospel in my life for this very reason. My friends and I in class actually discussed this, and having the church as a support system. The LDS community is a very service oriented one, and whenever any small or big stressor is there, you are never left abandoned. The Relief Society and Priesthood automatically step up to the plate and help you when you are feeling down.
Also, I love that I can turn to God when in times of doubt. He is always there and I can just pray my heart out about my sorrows, desires, and gratitude. Even people who aren't LDS believe in this. God is there and he is all knowing. He provides me and others faith in times of weakness and stress and I love that.
"When life gets too hard to stand, kneel."
~Anonymous~
Questions:
1. In what ways has stress formed in your life and how have you dealt with it?
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Great post lady. :) I'll have to remember to keep checking in. - tracey
ReplyDeleteStress has formed through many things in our family -- new babies, new schools, new towns, new friends, new family members through marriages, and instances of injuries, illnesses, surgeries, etc. that all affect energy, emotions, and finances. We have had other stress from times of selfishness or pride. Through all instances of family stress we have always been most successful when we've involved the Lord in our lives through prayer and scripture study. Above all else, I don't think anything can quite compare to the power of prayers and scriptures as it humbles us, requires us to look for new possibilities than our original limited views, and invites the Spirit in to help direct our lives.
For some it feels their whole life is 1 big ball of stress! Just like you stated it can come in so many forms; death, wayward children, divorce, finances, fatigue and stretching yourself too thin. There are many ways to deal with stress; stuffing your emotions, getting angry, counseling, crying, depression and holding on to your faith. I think it depends on the situation how you deal with the stress. For example if you are dealing with financial stress one might become depressed or despondent or if you are dealing with wayward children one might rely on faith and prayers to get them through.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what kind of stress a person is dealing with, your religious beliefs will ALWAYS get you through. Rely on your Heavenly Father and have faith that the trial will teach you something and make you a better person when it is over.